Mobility and communication confession

Confession: I’ve deleted Facebook from my phone. I’ve also deleted Skype, email, news and games.  And with it, went the mindless checking, the endless ads, the depressing news, the dramatic updates, and the baiting trolls.

I feel unleashed, un-tethered, and physically lighter like I am walking in space.

untethered space walk

It is as if my phone magically lost the “freshman 15” and isn’t such a heavy burden to carry around.  I’m slowly moving backwards with my personal tech.  Nostalgic for the days of a flip phone – something used only to make phone calls and receive limited texts.

With the limit on input, I feel my internal monologue is quieting down, being-ness becoming more centered, and my wellness improving. Being able to have the mental space to cultivate self-directed compassion, kindness, humor and ridiculous ideas has once again started to flourish.

It has only been 2 days since I unplugged.

By creating the boundaries around myself and my connected-ness to the world, it has allowed me to have my time of loneliness without feeling as though I’m missing out or not up to date on whatever the latest trending twitter hashtag is all about. In just two days I have achieved an emotional stability that wasn’t available while riding the data-rollercoaster (especially lately).

But here is the biggest benefit: I miss my tribe.  With the missing, comes the priority to get face-time with my friends and family.  Because I am not inundated with status updates and drama, I look forward to the time we get to spend together in person.

It’s perfect timing too.  The holidays are a perfect opportunity to take a break and spend some time with friends and family.

My point is: Our time on this little rock is short, and I’m not going to waste it looking at a screen.


Gratitude Schmatitude

There is this gratitude bandwagon making it’s parade through social media sites. Some variation of “30 days of Gratitude” or some other practice in positivity, whereby one would post up what they are grateful for every day.  Normally, I’m all for positive thinking and gratitude, but these 30 day campaigns of gratitude are bullshit and they piss me off.

Really? So, for 30 days you are going to post up something that your friends (or clients or acquaintances) can “like” or “share” or comment or be a cheerleader for you about something that you are grateful for?  Yes, I get it, you are grateful for your house and your health and your pets and your food and, and, and…

But… what is your true motivation?  What is your selfish motivation for this vane display of “look at me and how grateful and blessed I am.”-type posts?

How about this:
Just start saying “Thank You” without some expectation of something in return.
(whether a facebook “like” or even a response of “you are welcome”.)

Try saying “Thank you” to the barista who hands you coffee at 6am when you are late for work – when they started their shift at 4:30am and have to deal with cranky people.

Say “Thank you” to the person who holds the door open just a little bit longer so you can slip in without having to shuffle what is in your hands.

Say “Thank you” to the bus driver who just seamlessly took you to work so you didn’t have to drive or walk or ride a bike.

Say “Thank you” to your mom, partner, neighbor, or friend whose real-life presence makes you feel loved, supported, or make your life a little bit easier because of their presence.

Did someone in your office bring coffee or donuts?  Say fucking “Thank you”.

Start living your life in a way that exemplifies what it means to have manners.  Be a fucking adult. Take responsibility. Wash your face, brush your teeth, and say “Thank You” when someone does something nice.

Practicing gratitude is not a fucking social media event, it is a lifestyle.  It is a choice you make in each moment to be thankful for the things that you are supplied with by the people around you.

Just make it a little bit easier on everyone and say “Thank you” once in a while.

It will help.