Opinion: Walking a mile in her shoes

I saw this on my Tumbler feed the other day courtesy of Wil Wheaton. First, if you don’t know who Will Wheaton is, you, my friend, are in for a rare treat. He is, a Demi-God in the vast Universe known as the Internet, as well as the dorky cute kid named Wesley Crusher on Star Trek Next Generation.

Remember him now?

This is his Universe: (click here for a link to everything he touches)

(oh and p.s. he has also touched The Bloggess – hopefully with her permission, but you can see the pictures here and here)

Anyway, this post really isn’t about Wil Wheaton (or The Bloggess – sorry). It is about something that he REPOSTED that I saw and thought was worth pointing out and having a conversation.

This was the re-post:


“We were discussing homosexuality because of an allusion to it in the book we were reading, and several boys made comments such as, “That’s disgusting.” We got into the debate and eventually a boy admitted that he was terrified/disgusted when he was once sharing a taxi and the other male passenger made a pass at him.

The lightbulb went off. “Oh,” I said. “I get it. See, you are afraid, because for the first time in your life you have found yourself a victim of unwanted sexual advances by someone who has the physical ability to use force against you.” The boy nodded and shuddered visibly.

“But,” I continued. “As a woman, you learn to live with that from the time you are fourteen, and it never stops. We live with that fear every day of our lives. Every man walking through the parking garage the same time you are is either just a harmless stranger or a potential rapist. Every time.”

The girls in the room nodded, agreeing. The boys seemed genuinely shocked.

“So think about that the next time you hit on a girl. Maybe, like you in the taxi, she doesn’t actually want you to.””


Chew on that for a bit my friends, and tell me your thoughts.

My humble opinion:

It is so easy to judge. So easy to cast stones. But it seems only when the shoe is on the other foot, does one realize that, in fact, the shoe doesn’t fit so well.

Respect is more than just a two way street. It is something which radiates and orbits from your entire being. When you respect yourself and respect everyone around you (in words, thoughts and actions) those respectful vibrations pour forth in all directions like rays from the sun. (I know, that sounds a little woo-woo).

My point is:
Times are changing. Which means the way we think about things has to change too. Namely how we interact with each other. It seems as though our culture, bred from war, continues to propagate that energy. From the ideas and verbal assaults about marriage (gay, straight or interracial), the war about religion/beliefs, war over politics, the war of the sexes (hello healthcare/reproductive health issue) and let’s not forget the war which has been going on for over 10 years in an area that, for all intensive purposes, was the cradle of civilization.

Isn’t it about time to change things?
Isn’t it time to propogate peace, respect and kindness rather than aggression and war? It sure would relieve a lot of stress.
It all begins with you.


2 thoughts on “Opinion: Walking a mile in her shoes

  1. I would love to know how to change things purely from peace. I try and tell myself: “Gandhi did it, surely we can too!” Then I begin to see the structures in place to purposely prevent peace from occurring.

    As soon as things start to look sour in our own government, “they” make some external group the enemy and the American people have a new focus – and we forget that our own government is screwing us over.

    We are not the American People – we are the American Sheeple. If we are so easily led astray by the powers in place that hold a new, cooperative world from taking place, we alone are to blame.

    On every level of our society there are divisions and blurred lines – suddenly corporations are citizens, and have rights. The citizens are being kept in debt so they must slave away at jobs they hate in order to pay the bills. It is all a plan of control.

    My hope is that we begin to see these political games for what they are, and begin to see through all those agendas. Then and only then will the world know peace.

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